Internet Dating More Successful than Thought
Internet dating is proving a much more successful
way to find long-term romance and friendship for thousands of people
than was previously thought, new research shows.
A new study of online dating site members has found that when couples
who had built up a significant relationship by e-mailing or chatting
online met for the first time, 94 per cent went on to see each other
again.
Perhaps surprisingly, the study, by Dr Jeff Gavin, of the University of
Bath, also found that men were more emotionally dependent on their
e-partners than women, and more committed to the relationship.
Old-fashioned romance isnt dead, however: among the surveys findings
were that exchanging gifts was the best way to ensure commitment in the
relationship.
Dr Gavins research comes at a time when the numbers using internet
dating agencies have steadily increased: around six million Britons are
now believed to have signed up.
Dr Gavin, with Dr Adrian Scott of the University of Bath and Dr Jill
Duffield of the University of the West of England, carried out an online
survey of 229 people, aged 18 to 65, who have used UK internet dating
sites, asking them about their main relationship that they had had
online. Dr Gavins paper will be presented to a conference next month.
The research showed that:
94 per cent of those surveyed saw their e-partner again after first
meeting them, and the relationships lasted for an average of at least
seven months, with 18 per cent of them lasting over a year.
men online were significantly more likely to be committed to the
relationship than women and were more dependent on their e-partner.
the more the couple engaged in simultaneous online chat before meeting
rather than simply e-mailing one another, the more they were found to
depend on one another emotionally and the more they understood one
another.
those who exchanged gifts before meeting had a more committed and deeper relationship.
the more the couple talked on the telephone before they met, the deeper the relationship.
Dr Gavin, of the Universitys Psychology Department, and his co-authors,
found that people using the internet rarely used webcams, which allow
computer users to see one another, because they preferred the greater
anonymity of writing and using the telephone.
This study shows that online dating can work for many people, leading to
a successful meeting for almost everyone we surveyed, said Dr Gavin.
Given that the most successful relationships lasted at least seven
months, and in some case over a year, it seems that these relationships
have a similar level of success as ones formed in more conventional
ways.
We found that men tend to be more committed to the online relationships
than women, possibly because the anonymity of writing gives them a
chance to express their emotions more readily than in real life.
We also found that people are shying away from using webcams because
they feel its important not see their partners for some time there is
something special about text-based relationships.
Dr Gavin believes that the reason that using the telephone and online
chatting indicates a deeper relationship is that these are methods of
simultaneous communication, whereas e-mails are more formal.
Of the relationships, 39 per cent were still going on at the time of the
survey, and of these 24 per cent had been going for at least a year,
and eight per cent for at least two years. Of the relationships that had
already ended at the time of the survey, 14 per cent had lasted over a
year, and four per cent had lasted over two years.
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